|Dr. Garland prepares to fall (Photo credit: genvessel)|
"If a child lives with approval,
He learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,
He learns to find love in the world."
That's all I want. I don't have to complicate it. I want my sons to like themselves and find love in the world. I want them to know that we accept and approve of them. It's actually so much more than that though. We marvel at all that they are bringing to the world. My biggest fear about the teenage years ahead is that the unique and marvelous in them will be silenced. Ultimately, that is why I will never be irrelevant. All of us parents will always have a job and a purpose. Sometimes it will be to help sort out poor choices or full on catastrophe. Sometimes it will be to set boundaries and encourage personal responsibility. Our constant role though, no matter what happens in their life, no matter whether friends or future partners have their daily attention, is to remind them that they are loved and that they are marvelous. It is our life long job and always relevant.