Kids don't come with a guide. Parents don't have to pass any comprehensive exams to prove they are prepared for the lifelong vocation of parenting. Instead we worry, doubt ourselves, compare ourselves against others, and save money for the future therapy bills. The parenting test comes everyday. The only way to pass is with heaps of humility, honesty,and humor.
Friday, March 9, 2012
A Time for Everything
There is an appointed time for everything. And there is a time for every event under heaven— A time to give birth and a time to die;
A time to plant and a time to uproot what is planted.
A time to kill and a time to heal;
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to weep and a time to laugh;
A time to mourn and a time to dance.
A time to throw stones and a time to gather stones;
A time to embrace and a time to shun embracing.
A time to search and a time to give up as lost;
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear apart and a time to sew together;
A time to be silent and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate;
A time for war and a time for peace.- Ecclesiastes 3
Regardless of our religious beliefs, the words from Ecclesiastes are common sense type wisdom. Good and bad times will come and go. We hope for more of the good than bad but have less control than we would like over the reality of that balance. There are many things that we can control though. Is it time for us to love? Or throw away? Heal or plant? Is it time to give up something as lost? To speak?
For me right now, I have to remember that I can't move through the world in one set gear. I need to let go in some parts of my life and embrace in others. Mostly I need to make enough space so that I can sit and reflect a little, every once in awhile. Awareness needs to be cultivated, it doesn't just appear.