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I think the stay at home vs. working parents debate heats up when people project their own internalized doubts onto others. When I say, "My work is just as important as paid work.", I believe that part of the statement is coming from my own doubts about whether or not what I'm doing every day is making a difference or not. The bottom line is that all the choices in our life, especially parenting choices require a delicate juggling of variables. On the work decision, we're evaluating our child's specific needs, available child care resources, our own earning capacity, our own health, the family support system, and of course the little issue of our family budget. We are the only ones that can judge all those elements and discern what will be sustainable for our unique family. It would be great if our culture, our corporations, and our government actually offered programs and policies that made some of these decisions easier. For now, I'd be happy if we could just all agree that families need more support, period. Whenever possible, let's give each other encouragement instead of judgement, we're all being hard enough on ourselves most days anyway.